Dear sisters all over the world,
I have sisters, my blood-sisters, and I am writing this so
that my sisters will know what to not expect when they encounter the world and
men. It would kill me to know that my sisters are going through the painful realizations
that I have gone through. Thus, to bring the expectations really low and to
avoid heartbreaks, please read this, print this out, boil the paper with some chicken stock and celery and drink
it.
Firstly, clearing my throat, no one is going to love you
like our parents. No other man is going to stay up all night to change your
soiled diapers, or doze off next to a boiling kettle to fix u a bottle of milk, no man but our father. No
other human being would wake up every two hourly to feed you but our mom.
And Anu, Sasi, no other man would check your forehead to see whether you are
having fever and shove a rectal/oral Paracetamol every 4 hourly to make sure you
get out of your sick bed except Amma and Appa. No other human being would
understandingly buy/make you porridge/chicken soup/rasam when you are sick. So,
listen, when you are out there with a man you think u love, when you need all
these care, you just have yourself to do it all, or just come back home. Amma and
Appa will give you all you need. Don’t
ever expect that man you love to do all these, because he probably has no clue
what you need/ he does not know what you are going through/ he just has no idea
what to do/he thinks you are well enough to walk out of bathroom after purging
diarrhea through your mouth/ he’s just too busy watching football. Accept that,
okay.
Secondly, just remember, you are not the only female walking
with boobs, butts and vagina. And you bloody well know that we inherit short
statures, tiny calves and large noses from Appa, so just accept the fact that
we are average. Just plain average.Amma is really beautiful, and its sad we
didn’t get her thighs, calves. Though I think you both are the most beautiful
sisters one can ever get. Do not expect to be treated like you are princess-charming
and the whole world is after you. The man you claim to love have eyes, have got
things between his legs , and they are sensitive to any woman, to not just you.
So accept it, they will check other girls out, they will watch porn etc. But a real
man knows to refrain himself from other bitches and to keep you secured. So,
trust those men, and discard others into Padang Golf garbage. Don’t get upset
when you discover him checking other girls out, no matter in what
manner/media, just accept, all men do that. And you have eyes, and two ovaries within
your abdomen, too. You know Vidyut Jamwal is available online anytime.
Thirdly, you have the full authority to everything you earn,
including money, success, career . Your
money is yours. You have the right to spend it. You have the right to buy
anything you want. The achievement you
get in your studies/career is solely your hardwork and you must work for it. Do
not expect positive encouragement from the man you claim to love. Do not expect
him to guide you to being a succesful woman. You have brain, and our family is
blessed with intelligence and talents, plus you are a woman, so you can do it
by yourself.Men are quite dumb, actually.
You don’t need a gentle push, tap on your shoulder, handshake or I am proud
of you, my lady to go further. You can stand on your own feet and and use that
money you get for yourself and Amma, Appa.Go get that Fossil,Prada or whatever you want. Don’t bug
me for money. LOL. Pay for his dinner,
if he needs. But you can always take care of yourself. Don’t get upset when he
doesn’t bother about your career growth and personal achievement. He has his
own life to look after and he probably has a lot to learn from you.
Fourth, and probably the closest I can relate to myself.
Wake up, Kalai. Don’t expect romance to flow from the man you claim to love.
He’ll follow you around like a puppy, he’ll buy you chocolates and probably few
flowers after you give him a bit of hint, but do not, I repeat, DO NOT EXPECT
that to be everlasting. You might have flutters still in your chest or you
might still imagine romance after 20 years of marriage, but do not expect him
to feel the same way. Because he is not a female. The hormones work differently. Trust me, I am a doctor. Do not expect lovey-dovey
sentence/texts, say…after 5 months of relationship. Do not be fooled by love
stories/romantic movies/anything for you,baby! As I said, all you have is
yourself. Do not expect him to get you birthday gifts, do not expect him to
surprise with you a book you longed to buy-he probably won’t even remember, do
not expect anniversary gifts. It’s good enough if he remembers it. But when you get those, embrace them and be happy just for 10 minutes.Anything longer than 10 minutes, you are teaching yourself to expect. Because after
all, as I saw on Facebook today, even the sweetest chocolate expires, and you
didn’t even get the sweetest one in the first place.
Fifth, do not put him before your parents. Or before me. If
you ever have to choose between going back home or visiting him, trust me, do
not think twice, just go back home. GO BACK HOME!! There is no such thing as
sacrificing your work/time/life for him. He will come to you if he wants to see
you/if he misses you. Amma and Appa need you both, Sasi especially, so just go
back home!
Sixth, let him go if he needs to go. If he likes someone else, he cheated on you or whatever stupid reason that makes him want to break up, LET HIM GO. There are a many more other guys on Earth. You probably feel like there is no one like him, no one would understand you like him and you can't imagine living without him. But guess what, he did not think there is no one like you. He does not want to understand you anymore. He obviously can imagine a life without you. So, do you think you want to live with a jerk like him? Just let him go. Karma is a bitch. He'll probably hook up with one. And if u can't find a good guy, don't worry, big sister is here.
I am late to work. All I am trying to say is, family first.
You second. And you both need to grow up, be independent and do not complain. I love you all.
Disclaimer: Not all men are as I described, but most are.Some are gem. Few are really like Shah Rukh Khan in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai. If you are lucky enough to date a Korean,then you can ignore this post. If
you think the man you claim to love is none like what I wrote, then he’s a
keeper. But you both never listen to me. Don’t say that I did not warn you both, huh.
